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Here is where you will find on-going up-to-date useful information on family law topics, such as separation, divorce, custody and access, child support, spousal support, property division, marriage contracts, family mediation and arbitration.  This blog is designed to answer your family law questions, so look around.

This blog will answer a lot of common family law, divorce, separation, and parenting issues.  If you are having trouble finding the information that you need, just use the search box on the left.  It will help you find the answers you need to your family law or divorce matter.

All of the answers are provided by a practicing Ontario Family Law/Divorce Lawyer.  However, note that small changes in circumstances can lead to a big change in how the law applies to the situation.  It is always important to discuss your particular circumstances with an experienced family law lawyer.  You can contact John Schuman at 416-446-5080 or by emailing him.  For more information about how to contact John, click here, and click here for more information about John.


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In addition to this blog, you can get a lot more information about Family Law in John Schuman’s book, The Guide to the Basics of Ontario Family Law, which is available from Amazon as a paperback or a $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone.


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How Do I Convince A Family Court Judge That My Ex Is A Bad Parent?

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Concerns and differences about parenting are a frequent cause of separation and divorce.  Alternatively, concerns changes in a spouse’s behaviour can lead to the end of the relationship and even mental health concerns.  Added to that is the fact that separations often occur when one spouse believes the other is a bad persons, which can lead to concerns about what the children are learning from the example being set by that parent.  All of these concerns can mean that when parents separate, one or both of them can feel that it is best for the children if they have little contact with the other parent.

 

Ontario Family Law Podcast

7 - Custody of the Children - what it means and how it is decided

15 - Family Court Step by Step - Part 2 - From First Appearance to the last appearance before trial

17 - Sole Custody, Joint Custody, Shared Custody- How do Judges Decide?

19 - What To Do If A Child Won't See One Parent

27 - Domestic Violence- The Critical Information

35 - Resolving Children's Issues Outside of Court

However, moving out and taking the children, or otherwise acting unilaterally to prevent the children from seeing the other parent can get a parent into big trouble in Family Court.  If children are going to be denied post-separation contact with a parent, then invariably, the parents will be heading for Family Court – perhaps on an emergency motion to restrict or allow a parent to have parenting time.

 

Any parent going to Family Court on one of those motion has to convince the judge that he or she is right to get  the order he or she wants for the kids.   Obviously, to get the desired order, a parent has to know how to be convincing on parenting issues while in Court before the judge.  Here are some tips on how to get the right parenting order including, where necessary, showing the judge that the other parent is a bad parent:


1.Family Court judges are not interested in how one parent feels about the other parent – even if that parent has been wronged.  Ontario (and Canadian) Family Law says that all a judge is consider is what is in the child’s best interest.  A parent who is focused on the children’s perspective and best tells the judge what the children need will be the parent who wins. The parent who appears focused on him or herself will lose in Family Court.


2.Parents have to base their case in evidence, not suspicions.   Judges don’t care what people think or what their concerns are – no matter how terrible one parent believes the other parent may be.  Judges only care what the evidence says.  They need to see proof.  Judges will not base a decision on suspicions unless there is some evidence those suspicions are correct.


 

3.If a parent has not screwed up yet, there is no basis on which a judge can that he or she is a bad parent.  The only exception to this is where there is objective evidence (not just the other parent saying) that a parent has threatened to harm the children or has said things that sound like he or she might let the children be harmed.  Other than that, it is necessary to create an opportunity for a parent to make big parenting mistakes – but obviously in a way that the children can be protected from any real harm.  Than can require some careful planning, and perhaps some ideas from an excellent family lawyer.


4.Judges view parents who try to undermine a child’s relationship with the other parent as a bad parent.  They believe it shows poor judgment.  So, if there are texts, facebook posts, tweets, instant messages, emails or other evidence of a parent saying bad things about the other parent, or trying to undermine the children’s relationship with the other parent, that can convince a judge that the parent sending them is a bad parent. Judges can also view not doing enough to make a child go for parenting time with the other parent as an indication of bad parenting. 


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5.Domestic violence, against any family member, is also a sign of bad parenting. Section 24(4) of the Children’s Law Reform Act specifically requires a judge to consider all forms of domestic violence when evaluating parenting.  However, judges will not like any party who makes false or exaggerated claims of domestic violence to get an advantage in Family Court.


6.Domestic violence is not the only form of conflict that harms children.  The evidence is clear that creating parental conflict in front of the kids actually does brain damage.   Creating or exposing children to parental conflict is bad parenting.


7.Finally, it is almost certain that a judge will view a parent who defies court orders, or will not cooperate with a parenting coordinator, as a bad parent.  But, again, a judge will not assume that a parent will breach a court order unless there is some evidence of the parent doing so in the past or there is clear of evidence of the parent’s intention to breach an Order (or defy a parenting coordinator).



The key to convincing a judge, even on an emergency motion for child custody, is to have evidence of a parents bad parenting and to express those concerns from the child’s perspective – how do the concerns negatively impact the child.   Once that is established, it is important to tell the judge, in light of the parenting concerns, what parenting arrangement is in the child’s best interest so the judge can order it.

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You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of the Family Law related to parenting after separation, child support, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback.

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However, if protecting the well-being of your children should always be your top priority.  To get the best advice, specific to your situation, you should speak to family lawyer.  Certified Specialist in Family Law, John Schuman, is known for his concern for children in separation and divorce and has won many child custody cases.  To contact John, call 416-446-5807, email him , or fill out the form below. You can use the same form to comment on this page.

 

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Our Child Has Come to Live with Me, How Do I Stop My Child Support Payments to My Ex?

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Child support payments are based on where I child actually lives, not where a Court Order or Separation Agreement says that they are living, or should be living.  Since child support is the right of the child, it also does not matter why the child is living where the child is living; child support goes to the parent with whom a child is living primarily.  (If the child lives approximately equally with both parents, read this page for how child support works).  However when a child’s situation changes, the Family Responsibility Office does not have the authority to stop collecting child support.  

 

Ontario Family Law Podcast

10 - Child Support - Who Pays and How Much?

14 - Family Court Step by Step - Part 1 - Starting and Responding to Family Court Proceedings

32 - How to Change a Support Order

18 - How to Hear the Voice of the Child in Custody/Access Cases

As with most things in Family Law, there is an easy way and a hard way to do things.   If both parents agree that the child has changed homes, or is not longer entitled to child support (note child support does not always end when a child turns 18),  or is living on his or her own, then they can write to the FRO and ask it to stop collecting child support.  The FRO will verify the information with each parent then stop collecting.   Alternatively, the parent who was receiving support can send in this form to stop the FRO from collecting support.

 

When a child switches home, child support should not just stop.  The parent who was receiving child support should start paying it.  That can make some parents reluctant to acknowledge that a child has moved.   However, not paying child support, and not agreeing that you should stop receiving child support, is a guaranteed way to get into trouble in family court.

 

When one parent will not acknowledge that a child’s circumstances have changed, and the way the FRO is enforcing support must also change, then it is necessary to go to Family Court.   Only a judge can look at the circumstances and determine which parent should be paying support and how much. (It is also possible to arbitrate those issues if both parents agree.)  The judge will tell the FRO what to do.  If the parties do not agree on the change, only a judge can change how much support the FRO is collecting and from whom.


 

Many people may avoid seeking the appropriate change to child support because of the complexities of the Family Court’s procedures.  The Ontario Government’s Child Support Online Recalculation Service only changes support when a support payer’s income changes in certain way; it cannot change support because a child’s circumstances changed.

 

Fortunately, there is a simplified court procedure for changing an existing support order.  That procedure is based on the premise that there is no dispute about the facts of the case.  Where a child has clearly changed homes, that fact should be clear to the Court.   Hopefully, when a parent serves a “Motion to Change Support” that will be enough for the other parent to acknowledge the child has moved and agreed to a change in support.  A party who fails to acknowledge the obvious and forcing a parent through the court process to the end can expect to pay most, or all, of the other party’s legal fees.   At the very least, the responding parent should start negotiating because an angry judge may make an order that is worse than the possible settlements.

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You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of child support, spousal support, property division, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback.  

 

The best way to protect yourself, your children, and your financial security, is to find out how the law applies specifically to your situation and what steps you should take to get things to work out for you. Certified Specialist in Family Law (and author of the book to the left), John Schuman, has extensive experience assisting complicated child support and custody/access parenting matters.  Contact him right now by using the contact form below, by emailing him, calling 416-446-5869, or using the contact form below.  We answer all inquiries promptly and we can arrange for you to come in quickly for a consultation (charged at a reduced hourly rate).


Many thousands of people get family law assistance from this website every day.  If you have found this page useful, please share it on your social network using the Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Pinterest buttons at the bottom of the page.  Please comment on this page using the comments section at the bottom to share your thoughts.



After the Family Court Changes an Order, is the Original Order Still Enforceable?

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Family Law is all about changing family dynamics.   Families do not stop changing just because a court makes a Final Order. Parenting arrangements and child support are particularily prone to changes because children’s lives change as they get older and child support is centered around parents’ incomes, which usually change every year. Consequently, there is a special, simpler, court process to change most Family Court Orders and an online child support recalculation service that is available to many parents to adjust Child Support Orders.   Click here to go to a page the described when you can change parenting and child support orders and the procedures available to make those changes.   If you have to go to court to get the change, listen to this podcast for a detailed explanation of how to do that.



 

Ontario Family Law Podcast

10 - Child Support - Who Pays and How Much?

32 - How to Change a Support Order

40 - How to Keep Your Money in Separation and Divorce

The whole simplified procedure around changing an order is based on the premise that almost all of the issues related to the separation have been addressed in the original final court order.  The court process is shorter precisely because the Family Court Judge is not trying to decide every issue again, but is only making adjustments here and there to reflect how the family has changed since the original order.   Since decisions and settlements on issues such a property division are not affected by on-going changes to the family, those orders are very difficult to change.  

 

When a judge changes a Family Court Final Order, he or she only changes the parts that MUST be changed because a change in the family’s circumstances.   If nothing has happened to make it necessary to change parts of a Family Court Final Order, then the Judge will leave things the way they were.  In fact, the new Order will specify precisely which paragraphs of the original Order the new Order is changing.   The rest of the Final Order remain in effect and the parties can enforce those remaining terms.   One change that a judge can make is to “terminate” a term of an Order, such as a requirement that one party pay support to the other.  If a Court “terminates” a term of an previous Order, than those terms are “dead” and can the parties cannot enforce them.

 

Until a judge has specifically changed or terminated a term of a Final Order, that term remains in full force and effect.

 

Things are a little different for Temporary Orders.  The purpose of a Temporary Order is address issues between the separated spouses or parents until their matter gets to trial or is settled on a final basis.   Once the case is finished, those Temporary Orders are no longer needed.   So, Final Orders have the effect of terminating all Temporary Orders.  Once a Final Order is in effect, all the Temporary Orders are finished and are no longer enforceable – unless the Final Order says that specific terms of a Temporary Order continue to be in effect.

 

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If you need to enforce a Court Order, then probably something is going wrong because one of the parties is not following the terms.  The best way to protect yourself, your children, and your financial security, is to find out how the law applies specifically to your situation and what steps you should take to get things to work out for you.  Certified Specialist in Family Law (and author of the book to the left), John Schuman, has extensive experience assisting clients with difficult legal issues, such as enforcement of Court Orders, or the difficult situations that lead to those Court Orders. Contact him right now by using the contact form below, by emailing him, calling 416-446-5869, or using the contact form below.  We answer all inquiries promptly and we can arrange for you to come in quickly for a consultation (charged at a reduced hourly rate).

  

You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of child support, spousal support, property division, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback.  

 

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Is it Legal for a Parent to Hide the Birth of a Child From the Other Parent?

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Ontario Family Court Judges generally have a very dim impression of parents, mothers or fathers, who deny their children the opportunity to have a relationship with both parents.  Section 16(10) of the Divorce Act requires that judges give children of married parents the maximum possible contact with each parent that is consistent with the child’s best interestsSection 20(1) of Ontario’s Children’s Law Reform ActSection 20(4) of the Children’s Law Reform Act says that, until decided otherwise, parents are equally entitled to custody of a child.  A significant exception to this is when one parent leaves the child in the care of other parent at separation.  say that by doing so the leaving parent gives the other parent temporary full custody of the children.  This section may not apply in a situation where the separation occurred prior to the child’s birth and the leaving parent was never given the opportunity to leave the child.


Even for very young children, especially infants, current research says that frequent contact with both parent is ideal to allow the children to form a relationship and both with both parents.  Current social science research also shows that it is important for children to develop attachment to both parentsYoung age is not necessarily a reason why a child should not be spending overnights with both parents, but what is most important is frequent contact with both parents and having both parents actively involved in caring for the child, not just visiting.


Ontario Family Law Podcast

7 - Custody of the Children - what it means and how it is decided

14 - Family Court Step by Step - Part 1 - Starting and Responding to Family Court Proceedings

35 - Resolving Children's Issues Outside of Court

One parent refusing to allow the other parent to have any contact with a young child is a situation where it is possible to get an emergency family court order.  This in unfortunate because there is also good scientific research the exposing children to parental conflict can cause children to suffer brain damage.   Those effects can be long lasting and serious.  To avoid that damage parents should first try parenting mediation, with a parenting professional, before going to court.  The parenting professional can help the parents understand the children's needs and help them work out a parenting plan that best suits the child's needs at each stage of development.  If the other parent will never agree to mediation, it is still important to propose it because judges get angry at parents who refuse to try to work out things for the kids without a fight.

 

But, if a parent is denying a child the opportunity to have a relationship with both parents, it is time to go to Court.


You can learn more about the family court process, how to start a family court proceeding, and what to do at each step by listening to the Ontario Family Law Podcast episodes on the Family Court process and the video below.

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You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of child custody, moving with the children, child support, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback.

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But, it is always best to discuss your situation with a top family law lawyer to get advice that is specific to your situation.  Certified Specialist in Family Law, John Schuman, is known for his concern for children in separation and divorce and has won many child custody cases.  To contact John, call 416-446-5869, email him , or fill out the form below. (Please note we cannot provide legal; advice by email.) You can use the same form to comment on this page.


Many thousands of people get family law assistance from this website everyday.  If you have found this page useful, please share it on your social network using the Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Pinterest buttons at the bottom of the page.  Please comment on this page using the comments section at the bottom to share your thoughts on the best ways to resolve matters after a separation. 


If I Cash In My Stock Options 10 Years After Separation, Will My Ex Get More Spousal Support


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Family Law questions about spousal support are never quick to answer.  Neither are questions about stock options in the family law context.  Your question does raise a number of important issues surrounding spousal support that people often misunderstand.  (Getting spousal support law wrong is a frequent family law mistake.)

 

To determine whether you are entitled to spousal support based on your spouse’s stock options, it is necessary to go over the basics of the law of spousal support.


 


Spousal Support is not like child support.  While there are Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines, they are very different from the Child Support Guidelines in many ways.  A couple of those differences are that:

  1.  Spouses are not automatically entitled to spousal support the way that children, through their parents are automatically entitled to child support.  Entitlement to spousal support, can be complicated issue, which is discussed in this podcast episode.  Even if a person meets the definition of “spouse” under the Divorce Act or Family Law Act, that person may still not be entitled to support.
  2. Spousal support is not just based on income.   The factors that decide whether a spouse is entitled to support also influence how much spousal support to which a spouse may be entitled and for how long.  It is not just a question of looking at table and seeing the amount of support payable for the spouse’s income, which is how child support works.   The Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines produce a range of figures for support and range of time for how long support should be paid.  How much and how long are determined by looking at the factors influencing entitlement.  And, if a spouse does not meet the legal tests for entitlement, the calculated figures mean nothing as the proper amount of support is $0.
  3. Unless required by a court order or separation agreement, spousal support does not automatically change, even when the spouses financial situations’ change.
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13 - Spousal Support in Ontario and Canada

30 - Entitlement to Spousal Support

The factors that determine entitlement to spousal support are set out in section 15.2(6) of the Divorce Act (for married spouses) and section 33(9) of the Family Law Act (for common law spouses).  These are set out in some detail the podcast. But, to summarize, While the wording is quite different, spousal support under either piece of legislation can be based on one or more of three bases for spousal support (sometimes called types of support):


  1. Compensatory Support – support that is designed to compensate a spouse for the  services provided during the marriage/relationship and the income or other wealth that a spouse gave up for the marriage/relationship (e.g. leaving a job to look after the kids and the spouse).
  2.  Non-Compensatory Support – support that is designed to give a “soft-landing” when a spouse will not be able to maintain the same lifestyle after a short marriage/relationship, or try to maintain the lifestyle after a long marriage or relationship.
  3. Contractual Support – where the parties agree that a certain amount of spousal support ought to be paid for a period of time.  This is usually set out in a marriage contract or cohabitation agreement.  However, spouses who do not fully understand entitlement do may obligation themselves to pay spousal support in a separation agreement that they would not otherwise have to pay because their spouse does not meet the test for entitlement.

 

All of this matters because, as noted above, spousal support does not automatically change with a support payer’s income.   In some cases, changes to support will not be permitted by the support order or separation agreement. 

 

Even where a support order or agreement does permit a change in support, the support recipient must establish that he or she is entitled to an increase in spousal support.  Such an increase is based on two sets of factors:

  1. There is link between the increase in the support payer’s income and the marriage or relationship, and
  2. There is an entitlement to increased support based on the three bases set out above.

 

The issue of stock options highlights the first factor. 

 

Stock options are performance incentives that are tied to the performance of the employee’s company.  Instead of being paid entirely by salary, the employee “earns” the right to buy shares in the company at a certain price.  If the company does well, then the employee can later buy the shares at a price that is less than they are worth and sell that at some point for a profit.   The income that an employee earns through stock options appears on that employee’s tax return at the time he or she sells the stocks, not at the time he or she earns the options.  In addition, it usually appears as a taxable capital gain rather than a salary.  (True stock options will always show up as a capital gain).


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When calculating support, good family lawyers, know that stock options income should be included in income for calculating support at the time the support payer earns the options and not when the support payer sells the stock and pays the tax.  It is possible that the support payer may never sell the stock and may pass it onto heirs - or at least wait until a support obligation is over before cashing them in.  Calculating what income should be used when stock options are an issue is unbelievably complicated and anyone who has a stock option issue in his or her divorce or separation needs to speak to a lawyer who knows about them.


If the stock option income was included in the calculation of your spousal support, then the cashing in of the stock options should not affect your spousal support because it was already factored in to the amount you receive.


If the stock option income was not included in the calculation of your spousal support payments, then when you  earned those options is very important:  

  • If you earned the options during your relationship, then they will be linked to your relationship and that gives your ex a basis to ask to share in the increased income. 
  • If you earned the options after your relationship for work you did after your relationship that was not linked to your relationship, then your ex probably has no claim to additional spousal support.
  • If you earned the options after your relationship for work you did after your relationship, but that work is related to the relationship (e.g. you were promoted to the job while you were still together, you were able to do the work leading to the options because your ex looked after you during the relationship) then your ex may be able to claim additional support.

But, even if the options are linked to your relationship, to get increased support, your ex will still have to establish that there are compensatory grounds (show that your ex has not been fully compensated for your ex's sacrifices during the marriage), non-compensatory grounds (you ex is struggling financially) or contractual grounds (you and your ex agreed to the additional support).


In addition, if you had the stock options at the time of separation, and included their value in the calculation of the equalization of net family properties, then it is not appropriate to divide up the options again for spousal support.  They capital gains from stock options will still be income for child support.  In addition, income from stock options earned after separation, which were not included in the property equalization process, but which can be linked to the marriage, can be used for spousal support calculations, if the support order or separation agreement permit. 


Clearly, the situation of stock options and support is complicated and even more complicated when discussing post-separation increased in income.  It is similar for most deferred compensation employee incentive plans.   So, it really is important that you get legal advice specific to your situation to make sure your support arrangements are right.

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The best way to protect yourself, your children, and your financial security, is to find out how the law applies specifically to your situation and what steps you should take to get things to work out for you. Certified Specialist in Family Law (and author of the book to the left), John Schuman, has extensive experience assisting high net worth clients on complicated legal matters, including stock options.  Contact him right now by using the contact form below, by emailing him, calling 416-446-5869, or using the contact form below.  We answer all inquiries promptly and we can arrange for you to come in quickly for a consultation (charged at a reduced hourly rate).

  

You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of child support, spousal support, property division, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback.  


Many thousands of people get family law assistance from this website everyday.  If you have found this page useful, please share it on your social network using the Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Pinterest buttons at the bottom of the page.  Please comment on this page using the comments section at the bottom to share your thoughts.


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How Do I Get My Pet Bunny Back From My Ex In Our Divorce?

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Under Ontario's current Family Law Legislation, pets, of any sort, are not treated like children.  They are, for all purposes of law, “property," like furniture or cars or bank accounts.  So, judges do not decide things on the basis of the "best interests of the pet," the way judges decide parenting issues on the basis of the best interest of the child.


Since the “best interests” do not factor into the decision about who gets your bunny, the issue about who gets to have the bunny is determined by who owns the bunny or who can prove to have “title” to the bunny.




Ontario Family Law Podcast

9 - Property Division in Ontario After Marriage

14 - Family Court Step by Step - Part 1 - Starting and Responding to Family Court Proceedings

29 - Common Law Separation and Property Division

35 - Resolving Children's Issues Outside of Court

To answer whether you can get your bunny back, you have to understand how property division works on separation and divorce, which is explained in this video and this podcast.  It is important to note that being married in Ontario does not give spouses any ownership interest in each other’s stuff.  So, the bunny belongs to whomever paid for it, or if there happen to be pedigree papers, the owner listed on that or other paperwork that proves ownership. Ownership does not change just because spouses are married or divorced.  Under Part I of the Family Law Act, married spouses share in the value of each other’s property but do not own each other’s stuff in anyway – unless they bought something in joint names.


Ontario’s Family Law does not give common law couples any right to property division or any ownership in each other’s stuff. It is possible that if both spouses contributed to value of the bunny that they will both become owners pursuant to the principals of Equity, which are explained more in the link above about property division and common law relationships.


So, if you own the bunny, and your spouse does not, then and your spouse will not turn the bunny over, you may have to start court proceedings.  Rule 44 of the Rules of Civil Procedure give the Court the power to Order the Sheriff’s office go to wherever you ex is living and recover items that you have proven to the Court belong to you.   The procedure is quite complex, and you will definitely need a lawyer to assist both with getting the Order and with arranging the necessary security for damages that the Court Rule requires.


If you and your spouse own the bunny jointly, then the situation becomes much more complex.  You must bringing a Family Court Application under section 10 of the Family Law Act for a determination that you are the rightful sole owner of the bunny based on the “Principals of Equity” rather than title (because you have contributed more to the value of the bunny than your spouse).  Alternatively, you can claim, under that section, that you should be the owner who has possession of the bunny because you will “preserve the asset” better.  


Judge Deciding Pet Issues in Family Court

However, where there is joint ownership, and one owner does not want to buy out the other, Judges do not try to determine the value of assets, including bunnies, or force one party to buy out the others’ interest in the bunny.  The judge will just order that the bunny be sold on the open market and the proceeds of sale divided between the owners (again Ontario Law treats pets and “property” and not as children).   The judge may order that either party can put in offers/bids to buy the bunny with the bunny being sold at the highest price.  Alternatively, the judge may order that neither party can try to buy the bunny if that would be best for all concerned.


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If you and your ex can agree to it, you could go to Family Arbitration and instruct your arbitrator to decide the issue of where the bunny should live best on the bunnies best interest.  However, section 2.2(1) of the Arbitration Act, 1991 technically requires that assets from assets from a marriage be divided according to the Family Law Act and not the parties’ instructions.  So, your best options might be to try to work something out through negotiation, mediation or Collaborative Practice, where the needs of the bunny can come first.


You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including property division, support, family court, the alternatives to family court and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback. But, it is always best to speak to a good family law lawyer


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The best way to protect yourself, your children, your pets and your financial security, is to find out how the law applies specifically to your situation and what steps you should take to get things to work out for you. Contact Certified Specialist in Family Law (and author of the book to the left), John Schuman, by using the contact for below, by emailing him, calling 416-446-4036, or using the contact form below.  We answer all inquiries promptly and we can arrange for you to come in quickly for a consultation (charged at a reduced hourly rate). 


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My Ex Is Going to Cut Off Child Support When Our Disabled Child Turns 18 - What Can I Do?

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Child support does not end at age 18 for children who are unable to become financially independent because they are disabled or are in full time school.  While it may be appropriate for child support to change in those circumstances, it is not up to the support payer to decide whether continued child support is appropriate or in what amount.  If the parties cannot decide what child support is appropriate, after exchanging financial disclosure and information about why the child cannot be come financially independent, the decision will be up to a judge in Family Court. 


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If you have a court order for child support, unless it specifies and end date, then child support will just continue. If you have opted out of FRO enforcement, then you can go to www.theFRO.ca to find the forms to start up FRO enforcement again.  If you have a separation agreement,  then you can file that separation agreement with the Family Court  using a Form 26B.  If you do not have a separation agreement or a court order, then you will have to start a court application for support.  If the order or agreement has a fixed end date, then you will need to start a “Moton to Change” based on your child's  anticipated need for support. 



 

Child support can get complicated for children over the age of 18 because the Child Support Guidelines Tables do not always apply, and there can be more ways to pay child support.  The best way to protect yourself, your children your financial security, is to find out how the law applies specifically to your situation and what steps you should take to get things to work out for you. Contact CertifiedSpecialist in Family Law (and author of the book to the left), John Schuman, by using the contact for below, by emailing him, calling 416-446-4036, or using the contact form below.  We answer all inquiries promptly and we can arrange for you to come in quickly for a consultation (charged at a reduced hourly rate). 

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What Does The Court Decision On the Repeal Of The Sexual Education Curriculum Mean?

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On February 28, 2019, the Ontario Divisional Court released its decision on the constitutional challenge to the provinces repeal of the 2015 Sexual Education Curriculum brought by the English Public Teachers Union and the Canadian Civil Liberties Association and others. While the Court dismissed the challenge, the decision does not prohibit teachers from teaching the 2015 Sexual Education Curriculum.  To the contrary, to some extent, it requires teachers to teach at least some aspects of the 2015 curriculum or lessons that are very similar to it  Teachers at publicly funded schools will want to consult with their Board and their union about their rights and obligations.  The decision does not apply to private school teachers as they do not have to follow the Ontario Curriculum at all.  This page will provide an general overview and explanation of the Divisional Court’s decision about what sexual education curriculum is in place in public schools.

 

The challenge to the Ontario Government’s repeal of the 2015 Sexual Education Curriculum, resulting in the return to the curriculum as it existed in 2010, can be summarized as follows:

  1. The repeal of the curriculum violated teacher’s freedom of expression because the government has threatened to punish teachers who taught the 2015 curriculum.
  2. A prohibition on teaching topics such as “consent” and alternative lifestyles threatened the lives and the security of the persons of students, particularly students who could be harmed by a lack of understanding of the meaning of consent amongst students and a lack of information about alternative lifestyles that could result in harm to student who either have a LGBTQ+ lifestyles or are from families that do.
  3. A prohibition on teaching alternative lifestyles and focusing on heterosexual relationships offends the equality rights guaranteed in the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms.
  4. The repeal of the curriculum particularly threatens the security of the person and equality rights indigenous persons.  As a result of the residential schools system and the “Sixties Scoop”, it is more important for indigenous children to learn about consent, bodily integrity and sexual assault at a young age to address the significantly higher rates of sexual violence faced by indigenous children. 
  5. The repeal of the sexual education curriculum unreasonably discriminated on elementary students on the basis of age and deprived them of information that is important to their wellbeing due to their age without a sound basis for doing so. 

 

The Court did not find any violations the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, nor of the Ontario Human Rights Code. But it recognized the validity of the above concerns.  However, it said that the Ontario Government was not preventing teachers from covering the “new” topics in their classrooms.  Moreover, the Ontario Human Rights Code may actually require teachers to cover these topics to avoid discrimination against disadvantaged groups who could be harmed by a lack of information on these topics.

 

Importantly, despite some initial “ill-considered pubic statements”, the Ministry of Education is not prohibiting teachers from teaching topics in the 2015 Sexual Education Curriculum.  The 2010 Sexual Education Curriculum does not prohibit teachers from covering the additional topics in the 2015 curriculum.  Further, there will be no repercussions for teachers who do teach the new topics. To the contrary, teachers may be required to teach topics found in the 2015 curriculum.  

 

Despite the repeal of the 2015 sexual education curriculum, the law may require teachers to teach elementary students about consent, body parts, LGTBQ+ lifestyles, the risks of technology, sexual violence and sexually transmitted infections. This is because:

  1. Nothing in the 2010 Curriculum prohibits teachers from covering these topics.
  2. The Ministry’s Policy and Procedure Memorandum (a directive from the Ministry of Education to publicly funded school boards) number 119 requires boards to have an equity and inclusive education policy that is comprehensive and covers the grounds of discrimination in the Ontario Human Rights Code.
  3. PPMs 128. 144, and 145 require school to ensure a “safe positive and inclusive school climate”.  
  4. The 2010 Curriculum requires that sexual education be provided in an accepting and inclusive manner that reflects the diversity of the student population and ensures that all students feels safe, comfortable and accepted. 
  5. The Ministry of Education’s position is that how teacher’s meet the above expectations is a matter of the teacher’s professional judgment and discretion.
  6. The 2010 Curriculum allows teachers to “amplify” instruction to include current examples.
  7. Section 169.1 of the Education Act and the section 1 of the Ontario Human Rights Code require teachers and school environments to be inclusive, tolerant and respect diversity. 
  8. The Ontario Human Rights Code requires to protect gender identity and gender diversity.

 

The Court did hold that a government, as part of its policy decisions, is permitted to modify the Provincial Curriculum and the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms does not require a particular curriculum. Since the concerns raised by the challenges have otherwise been addressed by Ontario Law to ensure that students are protected from harm, there is no basis to set aside the Government’s decision to repeal the sexual education curriculum. 

 

Despite all the rhetoric from the Provincial Government about repealing the 2015 sexual education curriculum, Ontario Law and Ontario Ministry of Education Policy, actually require teachers to continue to cover the “new topics” in the 2015 curriculum.   The curriculum just does not provide as much guidance on how to cover those topics, so teachers may actually have to refer to the 2015 curriculum, which teachers are allowed to do. 

 

The repeal of the 2015 sexual education curriculum was not unconstitutional because Ontario Law still requires teachers to cover the “repealed topics” with elementary school students.  The Ministry of Education is just not explicitly telling them how to do so.


More information about Ontario Education Law is available on this page.For additional information about education law, or to get legal help or protection for your child, contact Education Lawyer, John Schuman, call 416-446-4036 or use the contact form below.  You can also comment on this page, or share it on your social network using the buttons below.  Sharing is one of the best ways to make sure people who need this information get it.



Can My Ex Refuse To Change the Schedule To Stop Our Child From Going to Disney World?


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Disney World are a frequent source of conflict after separation, and the subject of many Family Court motions, perhaps because the non-travelling parent is jealous or fears that the trip could give the travelling parent an advantage in having a relationship with a child.  Judges do not care about those concerns, judge base these parenting decisions only on whether the trip is in the child's best interest.  Judges will generally allow small manipulations of the parenting schedule to allow a child to go on a vacation.

 

So, the issue is: what do you do when a parent unreasonable refuses a travel request?  Read this page for your options and the steps you may have to follow to go on the trip.  Unfortunately, if the other parent cannot be persuaded, and continues to unreasonably refuse to allow a parent and child to travel, it may be necessary to go to Family Court.  On the upside, if the judge is upset enough, the resulting Court Order may dispense with the necessity of getting travel consent in the future if the other parent is just being unreasonable.

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You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of child custody, moving with the children, child support, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering it from Amazon as a paperback

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However, if the trip is coming up soon, you may want to get in to see a lawyer pretty quickly to get advice specific to your situation and to get things in motion so the trip can go ahead.  Certified Specialist in Family Law, John Schuman, is known for his concern for children in separation and divorce and has won many child custody cases.  To contact John, call 416-446-4036, email him , or fill out the form below. You can use the same form to comment on this page.


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If I Need Permission From My Ex To Move Away With Our Child, Does My Spouse Need Permission to Move Away From Us?

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When a child has one or two (or more) primary parents after separation, the (or each) primary parent needs permission from the ex to move any significant distance away.  This is because the move will interfere with the ability of the other parent (or parents) to parent the child. Whatever the parenting schedule may be, it likely will not work if it was based on parents living relatively close to each other, or just in the same city and now the parents are living in different cities.  It is the disruption in the parenting schedule that matters, so it may be that even if the parents still live in the same city, traffic  to the lengthy of the the commute will prevent the existing parenting schedule to work for the child even if the parents live in the same city.  It is whether the parenting schedule can still work for the child that creates the need for getting permission,  Both parents must agree that the move is in the child’s best interest and a part of that determination is whether the child will still be able to have the same relationship with both parents.




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However, if a “non-primary parent” moves, then that parent will be interfering with his or her own time with the child. However, that move will, presumably, not affect the primary parent’s time with the kids. More importantly, the move will not affect the child’s relationship with his or her primary parent. It will, obviously, affect the child’s relationship with the non-primary parent.  That relationship may not have been as important in the past. It will always be detrimental for a child to lose contact with one parent.  But, if where a parent is moving away from a child, that parent clearly views the relationship with the child as less important than whatever is prompting the move.  There may not be the level of commitment necessary for a strong relationship, which may be why that moving parent is not a “primary parent” in the first place.  Hopefully, even after the move, the child will maintain some contact with the moving parent, and hopefully that will be enough to meet the child’s need for some knowledge and understanding of the identity of both (or all) parents.  Unfortunately, judge have learned it is futile to try to force parents to have a relationship with their children.  It does not work out well, regardless of how important it is for a child to know their parents.  A parent who is not putting their child first, will not put their child first if forced to visit and that will leave to disappointment and problems for the child.


If both parents want to move further away from the child’s existing home, it will be hard for a non-primary parent to deny the other parent permission to move because the primary parent’s move will not affect the other parent’s time with the child.  If the primary parent is moving  to Australia or Europe, then the other parent might have a reason to oppose as such a large move could have even more devastating effects on that parent’s relationship with the child then would result from that parent’s own move.   However, chances are if the non-primary is already moving far enough way that he or she could not continue to see the child  on weekends, then there is no reason to oppose the primary parent moving.


Deciding whether to let one parent move away with the kids is one of the hardest questions judges face and they consider a lot of factors in deciding whether to allow a parent to move away with the kids.   The most important of these factors, perhaps the only one the judge will care about, when deciding any parenting matter, is what is in the child’s best interest.  Going back to the original question, if a non-primary parent is moving away anyway, it may not affect the kids at all if the primary parent subsequently moves too.


 


If one parent won’t give the other permission to move, then the moving parent should start family court proceedings right away.  Without the other parent’s consent, a parent cannot move a child away if it affects the ability of the child to have a relationship with both parents.  If one parent does just move away,  a judge could order that parent to bring the child back, or make a worse order, if the moving parent just cut off the child from a parent.   Any lawyer who tells anyone that he or she can predict, with certainty, how a judge will decide a “mobility case” (a case about moving with the kids) is lying.  Judges are all over the map on these cases and each case depends on its own specific facts.  But, if a parent moving with the kids won’t impact the other parent because the second parent is moving anyway, the first parent has a pretty good chance.  A non-moving parent who opposes a move may have to pay some or all of the moving parent’s  lawyers’ fees if the reasons for opposing the move are not reasonable.


Also, a parent having to spend a lot of money to exercise access is one of the few bases on which a judge can reduce child support below the Table Amount in the Child Support Guidelines.  That may not impact a parent’s decision to move, but it is something to consider.   It is harder for a parent to ask for a reduction of child support because of travel costs if the parent moved away and chose to incur those costs.  

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You can get a lot more information about Ontario Family Law issues, including a comprehensive explanation of child custody, moving with the children, child support, and most other common family law issues by downloading this $9.99 Kindle eBook, Kobo eBook, or iBook for your iPad or iPhone or ordering ordering it from Amazon as a paperback.

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However, the best way to protect your kids, and your relationship with them, is to see a good family lawyer who has lot of experience in child custody and access cases.  Certified Specialist in Family Law, John Schuman, is known for his concern for children in separation and divorce and has won many child custody cases.  To contact John, call 416-446-4036, email him , or fill out the form below. You can use the same form to comment on this page.


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